Dear Twentysomething: Debra Chapoton

Dear Twenty-something Me,

Enjoy that pie a la mode that you’re having with lunch every day. You don’t think so now, but you’re really thin and you won’t have to worry about your weight for a couple more decades so go ahead and eat. Smile more, too, and don’t be embarrassed about those buck teeth, you’re going to get them fixed in your thirties.

Don’t fret about the choices you’re making. They’re not all good, but everything will work out and be better than you can imagine.

I could tell you to invest some money in certain stock market companies, but that would be cheating and you’re going to be rich in love and laughter anyway, so money won’t matter to you.

Enjoy your twenties because your thirties are going to bring huge, difficult decisions. I could tell you things to help . . . but you need to go through all the pain on your own. You will become a stronger person and God will help you with your faith, your compassion and your character, and you will never be alone.

I can tell you, however, that you are going to adopt a couple of phrases that will get you through tough times. One is “It’s just an inconvenience” and you will say it for just about every irritating, annoying situation like a flat tire, being late, losing something – anything short of tragedy. Another favorite saying will be “Life is an adventure” and you will certainly have an adventurous life. Each year you are going to look back on 12 months of amazing things that will happen unexpectedly and most will be good, very good.

Debra Chapoton, Author

Debra Chapoton is the author of several books including the psychological thriller EDGE OF ESCAPE. You can learn more about her and her books at and


3 Responses to "Dear Twentysomething: Debra Chapoton"

  • The phrase I’ve adopted (and used most) that seems to have helped me during my 30s is “learn to let go of the things you can’t control”. That is HUGE. Maybe even a mantra now even.

    1 Michelle said this (December 4, 2011 at 9:59 AM)

  • I am a big proponent of having the dessert now.
    The 20s are built for dessert. 🙂

    2 Kelly Simmons said this (December 5, 2011 at 7:30 AM)

  • It is awesome that you have been able to get actual published authors to prepare guest posts like these for your blog.

    I really like this one. I love that after going through the tough times we all seems to look back on them fondly. Yes, they were difficult but they were also valuable lessons that will help us in the future. We learn from our mistakes: we have to mess up to grow.

    3 Jennifer said this (December 6, 2011 at 1:55 PM)