Dear Twentysomething: Ginger from GReads

Dear 20-Something Year Old Ginger,

I could start this letter with a list of DONT’S because that would be the obvious thing to tell myself; however, then I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to learn from those mess ups and be a stronger, wiser person today.  Or at least that’s what I’d like to think.  So I will instead tell myself of the DO’S in life.

DO take college seriously.  Doing the typical thing when you turned 18 by going away to a 4-year university is fine; just be prepared for the mass quantities of freedom.  Sign up for classes that you intend to pursue according to a certain degree plan.  Allow yourself to make mistakes, but keep sight of your goals.  Just because someone else may be fitting the bill, does not make it right or OK to blow off that early morning lecture.  Set your alarm, get to class, and learn something.  You’ll wish you had, trust me.

DO be more selective in who you date.  Oh the joys of young love.  We can all be blind-sided by that happily ever after.  It’s easy to get wrapped up in the idea of being with someone, and not fully see that SOMEONE you’re with.  When he puts you down, makes you cry, and then turns it around to feel like it’s your fault – drop him, and kick him HARD when he’s down.  Remember that it’s ok to be single; you don’t have to be with someone else.  Being secure with your self is a huge turn on to others, trust me.

DO spend more time with your parents; especially your mother.  Being the product of two loving parents has instilled a lot of family values.  It has also made you take a lot for granted.  Spending the weekend with your friends may sound more enjoyable than an afternoon with your parents, but you never know when their time with you may be up. Make the most of every situation by asking those questions you’ll want to know later down the road.  It never hurts to be educated on the findings of what Mom and Dad experienced when they were your age.  There may come a time when one of them isn’t there to answer back.  Trust me when I say this, that time came sooner than it ever should have.

DO pay your bills on time and start saving now.  Though you’re new at this whole “I’m an adult thing,” remember that you’re also setting the framework for what you plan to live off of later in life.  Putting aside a few dollars from each pay check will be a huge help down the road.  Listen to your father when he lectures you on the importance of paying off those credit card bills each month.  He knows what he’s talking about.

DO understand that some people are meant to be seasonal friends.  Though that one girl may have stolen your heart and promised to be by your side no matter what, she too can make mistakes and break that bond.  Some friends are meant to be a part of your life for only a certain amount of time, and then you must let them go.  Be thankful for the memories you have, and try your best not to hold grudges.  Your true friends will be there, even when the storms have past.

DO love your body, its beautiful!  You’re seriously not as fat as you think you are. TRUST ME.  Be proud of your outer shell, and treat it nicely.  Yes, it’s ok to have that piece of chocolate cake.  I promise you won’t instantly gain 20 pounds from it.  I will advise you against getting those orangey-brown chunky high lights in your hair, though.  They are not attractive, trust me.  Believe people when they tell you that you’re beautiful, because it’s true.

My list of DO’S could go on and on — there is so much I want to tell you!  But part of the adventure is figuring it out for yourself.  Anticipate tears, but also look forward to many, many laughs.  Lean on your sisters, they are your support.  Love your father, even when it’s hard to do.  Be grateful for the 22 years you had with your mother, and not resentful for the many more years you’ll have without.  You see that place over there filled with books?  Try visiting it sometime, you might find a whole new purpose for your life just waiting inside.


30-Year Old Ginger

Ginger blogs at GReads!, where she hosts a number of features, including Tune in Tuesday, TGIF at GReads, and The Blogger Behind the Book. She may be a proud Texan, but she is not especially proud of this sparkly outfit worn on Spring Break when she was 21. Lucky for Ginger, she sparkles plenty no matter what she wears! Not even Edward Cullen can compete.


12 Responses to "Dear Twentysomething: Ginger from GReads"

  • This is really lovely. I’m a lot farther from 20 than you are, but I thought your advice was all excellent. Great stuff!

    1 Annette said this (December 1, 2011 at 9:33 AM)

  • Oh, Ginger…must you make me all teary eyed this early in the morning?! Lol I would for sure give a lot of these pointers to my 20-something year old. Awesome post. 🙂

    2 Jess @ Gone with the Words said this (December 1, 2011 at 9:40 AM)

  • You gave yourself some FAB advice and I totally agree – those screw ups suck at the time but really do make us stronger. You are one fabulous lady G 🙂

    3 Tara said this (December 1, 2011 at 10:05 AM)

  • Annnnd I’m totally tearing up over here. Love you, G.

    4 Sarah @ Storyboundgirl said this (December 1, 2011 at 10:18 AM)

  • You DO make so many excellent, important points for people to live by. Your insight is quite valuable, and I hope many people read and understand what you said. THANK YOU for an excellent, poignant contribution.
    (Way over 30)

    5 Chuck said this (December 1, 2011 at 1:29 PM)

  • Wonderful advice! Since turning 35 a month ago, I find myself looking back more often these days and really wish I could give my younger self some advice. But this is how we grow and become who we are today. I do have to say that I love being 35 compared to 25 and looking forward to 45!

    6 Carrie said this (December 1, 2011 at 1:53 PM)

  • I love this on so many levels.. there are many thing I would have told my 20 year old self. I love the fact that you tell her the Do’s and not the dont’s. I have done something things in the past that I’m not proud of in the least.. I hurt people, I hurt myself.. but I learned from it.. I wouldn’t take it back for the world.

    The part about your mom, seriously made me misty eyed.

    This is a great post… and you look super hot in that sparkly pic by the way. 🙂

    7 April H said this (December 1, 2011 at 4:02 PM)

  • Wonderful advice for someone in their 20’s, and certain tidbits are great for really for any age!

    8 capillya said this (December 1, 2011 at 5:34 PM)

  • Oh I absolutely, totally adore it! The list of Do’s is something that most don’t think of (personally, I have a whole slew of Don’ts I’d tell to myself!) but I am so glad you did it that way. And since you know I am quickly approaching my 20’s this is all fabulous advice I will carry with me. You are awesome Ginger <3

    9 Katelyn said this (December 1, 2011 at 10:48 PM)

  • You are a wise woman. Thank you for your contribution here and elsewhere. I too would do the DO’S. First and Foremost DO TRUST in Yourself. You will carry yourself farther than you can imagine if you do that one thing.
    I have always loved books (thanks to my dad) and know that it has influenced all around me because I do.

    10 Judy said this (December 2, 2011 at 12:02 AM)

  • Great way to frame this (positively as opposed to negatively). So many of those lessons I’ve learned for myself. Heck, I think all of them. They are wise lessons and ones that all should listen to closely.

    11 Michelle said this (December 2, 2011 at 11:16 AM)

  • Fabulous advice. And I love that you framed it with Do’s instead of Don’ts. Life is really all about what we actually do not what we try to avoid.

    12 Jennifer said this (December 6, 2011 at 1:24 PM)